Secret Polers

I wonder how many polers out there keep their pole dancing/fitness obsession a secret.  I recenetly found out that not everyone is so open and quite chattty about their love affair with the pole; that some even hide it from their loved ones.  I guess I can understand why this would be so.  Whenever i mention anything about my pole adventures/journey, the first thing I hear a lot of the time is something in relations to stripping/exotic dancing.  Don't get me wrong, my dancing is exotic and quite sensual (or at least I think it is).  But I dance because I love it so much and it lets me express and celebrate the feminine/sensual side of my being that has been lost somewhere along my life.  Maybe it had to do with the level of education and career path that I chose that aided in snuffing out of my innate female sensuality.  But pole dancing really allowed me to be much better at balancing the masculine, take charge, alpha self with the feminine, sexy, sensual, self at the same time.  In fact, it's the fostering of the feminine energy that gives me greater pleasure at being my alpha self.  Like Yin and Yang, there must be some balance that is maintained.  But aside from all this mindfulness/spiritual stuff, wouldn't it be more enjoyable and rewarding to be able to share such passionate part of oneself with their loved ones?  I know everyone has different crosses to bare, but I just wish everyone was as accepting and supportive as the people that surround me and share my excitement.